Remembering Neneng, 21 years since

Ruth P. Udtohan

Exactly this day in 2001, you left us at a very young age - sweet seventeen. It was the saddest moment that we were overwhelmed with grief at that time.

Words couldn't entirely describe the pain, emptiness, and feelings of loss from your passing. 

Sometimes, we asked ourselves if you were alive, how many children would you have? You would probably be a fashion designer or with your other cousins abroad. 

Your nephews and nieces have not seen you as their "Tita" nor heard your voice.

Twenty-one years may have passed, but still, we have not forgotten you. 

Indeed, there is no time limit on coping with grief and loss. 

The family's belief in Jesus Christ and the afterlife for those who believe in Him has helped the process easily. 

Being a Torah observant, Jewish tradition encompasses all of life, day and night, light and dark. Even in the most difficult of situations--the imminent and then actual loss of a loved one--the Torah is there to strengthen, guide, and help us grow and see beyond our loss.

Slowly, we've overcome the pain, emptiness, and feelings of loss. 

What is death? This is best answered with another question: What is life?

May your memory be a blessing.

+Ruth “Neneng” Udtohan