Happy Mother’s Day!

God could not be everywhere, and therefore he made mothers.— Jewish Proverb

Mother’s Day always gets me feeling so emotional, simply because it’s such a day that we honor our mothers.  We are so eternally grateful to have such an amazing Mama, Nanay, Nana, Ina, Ima, Ermats, Mamang, Inang,  Mommy, Mudra!

As early as last week, VRS readers sent inspiration mother’s day stories they culled from the internet that brought tears to my eyes. I just couldn’t stop myself from crying because we know that a mother would do everything for her children.  Read on.

My Mom Only Had One Eye

My mom only had one eye. I hated her… She was such an embarrassment. She cooked for students and teachers to support the family.

There was this one day during elementary school where my mom came to say hello to me. I was so embarrassed.

The hand that rocks the cradle is the hand that rules the world. 

Courtesy: Pinterest

How could she do this to me? I ignored her, threw her a hateful look and ran out. The next day at school one of my classmates said, ‘EEEE, your mom only has one eye!’

I wanted to bury myself. I also wanted my mom to just disappear. I confronted her that day and said, ‘ If you’re only gonna make me a laughing stock, why don’t you just die?’

My mom did not respond… I didn’t even stop to think for a second about what I had said, because I was full of anger. I was oblivious to her feelings.

I wanted out of that house, and have nothing to do with her. So I studied real hard, got a chance to go abroad to study.

Then, I got married. I bought a house of my own. I had kids of my own. I was happy with my life, my kids

and the comforts. Then one day, my Mother came to visit me. She hadn’t seen me in years and she didn’t even meet her grandchildren.

When she stood by the door, my children laughed at her, and I yelled at her for coming over uninvited. I screamed at her, ‘How dare you come to my house and scare my children!’ GET OUT OF HERE! NOW!!!’

And to this, my mother quietly answered, ‘Oh, I’m so sorry. I may have gotten the wrong address,’ and she disappeared out of sight.

One day, a letter regarding a school reunion came to my house. So I lied to my wife that I was going on a business trip. After the reunion, I went to the old shack just out of curiosity.

My neighbors said that she died. I did not shed a single tear. They handed me a letter that she had wanted me to have.

‘My dearest son,

I think of you all the time. I’m sorry that I came to your house and scared your children.

I was so glad when I heard you were coming for the reunion. But I may not be able to even get out of bed to see you. I’m sorry that I was a constant embarrassment to you when you were growing up.

You see……..when you were very little, you got into an accident, and lost your eye. As a mother, I couldn’t stand watching you having to grow up with one eye. So I gave you mine.

I was so proud of my son who was seeing a whole new world for me, in my place, with that eye.

With all my love to you,

Your mother.’

A Mother’s Love

A little boy came up to his mother in the kitchen one evening while she was fixing supper, and handed her a piece of paper that he had been writing on. After his Mom dried her hands on an apron, she read it, and this is what it said:

For cutting the grass: P50

For cleaning up my room this week: P100

For going to the store for you: P20

Baby-sitting my kid brother while you went shopping: P60

Taking out the garbage: P50

For getting a good report card: P500

For cleaning up and raking the yard: P100

Total owed: P880

Well, his mother looked at him standing there, and the boy could see the memories flashing through her mind. She picked up the pen, turned over the paper he’d written on, and this is what she wrote:

For the nine months I carried you while you were growing inside me: No Charge

For all the nights that I’ve sat up with you, doctored and prayed for you: No Charge

For all the trying times, and all the tears that you’ve caused through the years: No Charge

For all the nights that were filled with dread, and for the worries I knew were ahead: No Charge

For the toys, food, clothes, and even wiping your nose: No Charge

Son, when you add it up, the cost of my love is: No Charge.

When the boy finished reading what his mother had written, there were big tears in his eyes, and he looked straight at his mother and said,”Mom, I sure do love you.” And then he took the pen and in great big letters he wrote: “PAID IN FULL”

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Realities of life

US-based socialite Mikey Gatal and friends were worried that two Abu Sayyaf Group (ASG) bandits are still hiding in Bohol.

 

I assured Mikey and friends that we’re safe in Bohol.

 

“We’re all safe Mikey. Thanks for your concern,” I said.

 

Proof?  Fiestas are celebrated in every sitio and barangay this May.

 

Foreign and local tourists flocked to Bohol even after the clash between the Abu Sayyaf group and government troops last month.

 

The delegates of the Asean meetings at the top of the Chocolate Hills.
Photo by Leo Udtohan

Several tourists, foreign and local, were seen enjoying Panglao although some resort operators, however, admitted that some tourists cancelled their bookings after the clash between the Abu Sayyaf group and security forces.

 

I told him that while the bandits were chased in Clarin town, the delegates of the Association of Asian Nations (Asean) meetings held recently in Panglao had enjoyed their countryside tour in Bohol.

 

“They had so much fun,” I told Mikey. 

 

I should know because I was with the delegates during the tour. Regional tourism secretary Judy Gabato  allowed me to cover the tour. Gracias por todo, Maam Judy!

 

I was with “VIP Bus 1” composed of the Asean delegates with Department of Tourism (DOT) licensed tour-guide Ms. Doris Dinorog-Obena, who was amazing, amusing and articulate. She shared her extensive knowledge of Bohol and its history, people, food and architecture with ease. 

Since there were only places to visit by the delegates, the pace was comfortable and efficient. Ms Doris and her assistant Mark were professional and friendly and made the delegates feel they were in good hands. 

The delegates visited the tarsier sanctuary in Corella town. At the tarsier sanctuary, they met Lito Pizarras, the tarsierman. They also learned that tarsiers are both endangered and fragile, and can commit suicide when stressed.

 

They also visited the postcard-famous Chocolate Hills composed of 1,268 cone-shaped hills.

 

In summer, when the grasses wilt and turn chocolate brown color making them look like Hershey’s Chocolate Kisses.

 

Doris Dinorog-Obena shares more about Bohol
 and her people during the tour. Leo Udtohan

The viewing deck in Carmen allows a fantastic view over the hills and the valleys of Bohol.

 

Cuong Ba Tran of the Ministry of Industry and Trade of Vietnam said he loved to visit again.

 

“I find the people here very friendly. You can find nowhere in the world such people,” he said. “I will bring my family- my kids and wife to visit Bohol. Very impressive.”

 

Indeed, Bohol's charm lies on its people, culture, heritage and rich natural resources.

(Note: On this page and the next are pictures of  ASEAN delegates during their countryside tour in Bohol.)

 

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It was a busy, busy last week that some friends shared the article “Realities of life” they culled from the Internet. I am sharing this to all VRS readers for them to ponder.

 

When we die, our money remains in the bank... Yet, when we are alive, we don't have enough money to spend. In reality, when we are gone, there is still a lot of money not spent.

 

A business tycoon in China passed away. His widow, left with $1.9 billion in the bank, married his chauffeur. His chauffeur said:- "All the while, I thought I was working for my boss... it is only now, that I realize that my boss was all the time, working for me !!!"

 

The cruel reality is: It is more important to live longer than to have more wealth. So, we must strive to have a strong and healthy body, It really doesn't matter who is working for who.

 

In a high end hand phone, 70% of the functions are useless!

 

For an expensive car, 70% of the speed and gadgets are not needed.

 

If you own a luxurious villa or mansion, 70% of the space is usually not used or occupied.

 

How about your wardrobes of clothes? 70% of them are not worn!

 

A whole life of work and earning... 70% is for other people to spend.

 

So, we must protect and make full use of our 30%.

 

Go for medical check-ups even if not sick.

 

HEALTH: Drink more water, even if not thirsty. Eat breakfast like a  king, lunch like a prince  and dinner like a pauper.

 

PERSONALITY:

-Live with the 3 E's--Energy, Enthusiasm and Empathy.

-Take time to PRAY.

-Play more games.

-Read more books than you did in 2016.

-Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.

-Sleep for 7 hours.

-Take a 10-30 minutes walk daily And while you walk,  Smile.

-Learn to let go, even if faced with grave problems.

-Endeavor to give in, even if you are in the right.

-Remain humble, even if you are very rich and powerful.

-Learn to be contented, even if you are not rich.

-Exercise your mind and body, even if you are very busy.

-Make time for people you care about.

-Don't over do. Keep you limits.

-Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

-Don't waste your precious energy on gossip.

-Dream more while you are awake.

-Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

-Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner with his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present Happiness.

-Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.

-Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.

-No one is in charge of your happiness except you.

-Smile and Laugh More.

-You don't have to win every argument, Agree to disagree.

 

SOCIETY

-Call your family often.

-Each day give something good to others.

-Forgive everyone for everything.

-Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6.

-Try to make at least three people smile each day.

-What other people think of you is none of your business.

 

LIFE

-Do the right thing!

-GOD heals everything.

-However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

-No matter how you feel, Get up, Dress up and Show up. The best is yet to come.

-When awake in the morning Thank GOD for it.

-Your Inner most is always happy. So, be Happy.

 

Prof. Reinerio Augusto Real of the office of the governor also shared “12 Things to Remember in Life”:

 

1.The past cannot be changed.

2.Opinions do not define your reality.

3.Everyone’s journey is different.

4.Things always get better with time.

5.Judgments are a confession of character.

6.Overthinking will lead to sadness.

7. Happiness is found within.

8. Positive thoughts create positive things.

9. Smiles are contagious.

10. Kindness is free.

11. You only fail if you quit.

12. What goes around comes around.

 

 

 

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Bohol Clashes/A War in Napo

● Jingle writes ‘Gubat sa Napo’ (A War in Napo)

● We will miss you Maam Zen, so long Nestor

We are caught up in the ongoing crackdown of Abu Sayyaf Group (ASG) in the province and the unraveling of Supt. Maria Cristina Nobleza’s ties to the extremist group.

The failure of the bandits to establish a base in Bohol should serve a lesson to the bandit group: They are not safe in Bohol. 

As of yesterday, three ASG stragglers are still in Bohol. However, the lack of community support and vigilance of the residents would make it difficult for the bandit group to sow terror here.

The vigilance of ordinary residents prevented the bandits from implementing their plans when they sailed to Bohol from their base in Jolo.

Children reported the presence of armed men with ammunition as “big as corn ears” in Barangay Napo, Inabanga town on April 10 and alerted the government troops who chased them down, killing three members including their leader Abu Rami.

The quick-thinking of a habal-habal driver helped the government troops locate the remaining members in nearby Clarin town and killed four others, including sub-leader and Napo native Joselito Melloria who guided the group to his hometown.

The poem, “Gubat sa Napo” (War in Napo) written by James “Jingle” Lofranco Tripoli, who hails from Tubigon town, resonated with netizens, too, many of whom shared it on their Facebook pages.

Jingle writes poem once a week for station dyLA in Cebu City, also managed by Jhunnex Napallacan, also a Boholano from Maribojoc town.

“I was inspired to make another poem that summarizes the unexpected terror event in a peaceful and calm province of Bohol to remember those people who were directly affected of the war most especially to our brothers who sacrifices their lives just to protect the Bol-anons from the bandits,” said Jingle.

He said he didn’t expect that his poem “Gubat sa Napo” has caught the attention of the netizens especially those living abroad who keep on worrying about the safety of their loved ones.

“I feel happy everytime people appreciate my poem that makes them relax rather than on worrying. In my own little way of writing the poem, I was able to help to ease the pain, worries and sadness they feel, “ said Jingle.

GUBAT SA NAPO (A War in Napo)

By James “Jingle” L. Tripoli

Balita nga nikuyanap sa kapupud-an

Katawhan nakurat og nakalitan

Wa damha nga kami ang hidangatan

Kakuyaw nga perti og hilabihan.

Bandido niabot sa barangay Napo

Nga bisan kinsa wala makatuo

Mga tawong armado mahisalaag didto

Nga gikahadlokan sa tanang tawo.

Gadala og ngilngig nga mga armas

Gamiton kuno sa ilang tahas

Nga magmugna og dakong kakuyaw

Sa among probinsya nga anaa sa kalinaw.

Gikatingad-an sa mga silingan

Bag-ong dagway napadpad sa ilang tugkaran

Matod pa bisita sa ilang kababayan

Apan kadudahan ang ilang sakayan.

Matod sa uban kumpit ang ngalan

Sa sakayan nga ilang nakit-an

Apan napalgan sa kagamhanan

Baruto diay ang ilang gisakyan.

Nakaplagan sa kabataan

Mga bala sa bandido gipainitan

Kay nabasa sa ilang pagpadagan

Paingon sa barangay nga ilang giabtan.

Gisumbong sa mga bata

Ang ilang talagsaon nga nakita

Didto sa ilang pinanggang barangay

Nga unta malinawon man sa kanunay.

Gitiktikan sa kasundalohan

Terorista nga ilang kalaban

Nagpang-abot sila sa kabukiran

Ug didto nagsugod ang ilang bakbakan.

Nikalas sa mga bililhong kinabuhi

Army, pulis og sibilyan way pili

Sa giyera ikaw molikay

Ug sa bala maglihay-lihay.

Terorista nakaikyas og nitago

Didto nagpahipi sa mga buho

Gilibutan sila sa kasundalohan

Ug gibantayan ang ilang lutsanan.

Nideklara si Presidente

Nga mohatag og ganti

Sa makatoltol og makasulti

Sa impormasyon nga importante.

Habal-habal driver ang unang nitug-an

Sa lugar nga iyang nahibaw-an

Terorista didto nasigpatan

Nagpangayog tabang sa kabalayan.

Pulis og army maoy niresponde

Nagkaengkwentro sa Brgy. Bacani

Ginukdanay hangtod sa Brgy. Nahawan

Terorista niresulta sa ilang pagtaliwan.

Panid-an ang nahabilin

Nga anaa sa lungsod sa Clarin

Aron kalinaw atong mapupo

Ang gubat nga nagsugod sa Brgy. Napo.

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We will miss you Maam Zen, Nestor

Our media colleague, Nestor B. Daarol was laid to rest in Dauis town yesterday.  Family, friends and fans gathered to say their final goodbyes to one of Bohol’s prominent broadcasters, after a short but brave fight with cancer.

We have more recollections of happy days with Nestor by friends who will forever miss him and cherish him deep in their hearts. As I’ve been saying, Nestor was a good man, loved by everybody who has said everything that could be said about him.

He was very straightforward, very sure of himself and once you’ve asked for a help—he’s there. When I asked Nestor if he could share his video and photos of news I’d missed, he sent the files right away with no “if’s and but’s.”

He told me once that word of honor was more important to him.

“Dili ta mag-unay og away sa media kay kita raman magtinabangay,” he told me.

And that was how it has been with him all these years.

So long, bai Nestor.

On a sad note, environmental activist, health advocate and visionary-leader Zenaida Darunday passed away on April 9.

Maam Zen paved the way to countless earthkeeping advocacies in Bohol.

Her friends celebrated perhaps less with tears but more with recollection of beautiful memories and anecdotes about this woman about whom nobody could say anything negative.

“You have done your share to advance the cause for a better world in your lifetime,” said community developer Nestor Maniebo Pestelos. “In your passing, we lost a close friend and a committed development worker.”

Another environmental activist Pat Ruiz, “She is an inspiration and a role model. Her legacy is now ours to continue”

Maam Zen was all that — and more.

Several years ago, I told her that I need to interview her about ubi (purple yam) for my story in Inquirer. She told me all about ubi, a healthy energy source with important nutritional benefits- that to my surprise I didn’t have enough space left in my notebook.

When I told her I need to go home to write my story, she told me to use her computer.

“Use it,” she said, while preparing a healthy lunch for me to stay for an hour. Before I went home, she shared to me about homeopathy, an alternative medicine, which I suggested to my friends of Magandang Gabi, Bayan (MGB) on ABS-CBN to feature it. 

She also lent me her camera and taught me the basics of photography. Well, it was an honor since Maam Zen was a photojournalist to several magazines in the United States of America. She spent 20 years of her life in New York where she earned her position as a senior environmental technologist of Shel Oil Company in New York and associate editor of Research Institute of America in New York City.

Maam Zen strongly opposed the controversial "water and power deal.” She also prevented the entry of GMOs here in Bohol, and Bohol is now GMO-free because of her heroic efforts. She played a key role in drafting “The Bohol Environment Code of 1998,” the first of its kind in the Philippines and now being adapted by other provinces; also authored The Bohol Climate Change Primer.

There was a time when I went to see her at Cedar’s to ask why our watery rose apple tree (tambis) was not growing healthy. She told me, “Talk to the tree” for which I did. Miraculously, the tree grew forth and bore fruit.

That was Maam Zen. With her, it was always fresh knowledge and never, never hesitated to share her expertise.  She was that generous, very giving in every way, whether with her time, materials things and friendship.

Two years ago, Maam Zen lent me her book, Alex Loyd’s The Healing Code, a good source of information on how to heal the source of any health and success or relationship issue.

“If you’re done reading it, you can return the book,” she told me. Until now, I still have the book.

Last December, I met Gabby (his driver before). He told me about her failing condition and he asked me to visit her. It didn’t happen.

You will be sorely missed, Maam Zen.

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Blazing Bohol!

Bohol's charm lies on its culture, heritage and rich natural resources.

Miles of white sand beaches and pristine waters can be found on Panglao Island composed of Panglao ang Dauis towns.

The hills are alive...

There are several beach resorts there that can provide accommodation and water sports activities such as jetskis, parasailing, among others depending on the budget.

One attraction that is a must is the recently discovered school of sardines in Panglao.

The sardines, locally known as “malangsi,” arrived in the waters off Barangay Tangnan in Panglao and stayed there for good. They are also attracting bigger species of fish like thresher sharks and mackerel.

“Sardines are always migrating but they’ve been in Panglao for some time. Biologists couldn’t explain why but our member marine biologist said it’s probably because of climate change,” Ian Uy, a member of the Dive Ta Bai group, who discovered the shoals of sardines two summers ago.

City of Friendship

The sardine have formed a shoal that could easily number to tens of thousands, even up to a hundred thousand, a delight to those who love to dive and snorkel.

There are some islands to visit in case the tourists are up for some island hopping.

The favorite sites are the Balicasag, Virgin and Pamilacan islands because they are close to Panglao Island.

Balicasag Island, which retains its laid-back charm, is a known dive and snorkel destination because of its marvelous coral reefs formation and spectacular drop-off (underwater wall) up to a depth of 60 meters.

Virgin island is an uninhabited islet where you can enjoy a long string of white beach. Kilometers of white beach emerge during low tide but disappears on high tide.

Pods of dolphins can be seen in the waters off Pamilacan Island which also hosts a Spanish watchtower and fish sanctuary.

Man-made forest

Other places where one can enjoy the underwater world are Cabilao Island in Loon, Bien Unido, Anda and President Carlos P. Garcia Island (Pitogo Island).

In the afternoon, one place to try out is the Extreme Adventure Tour (E.A.T) at the Danao Adventure Park in Danao town.

It hosts a variety of activists that get the adrenalin pumping.

These include a zipline, ATV, rock climbing and caving. For water adventures, the park also offers river kayaking and river trekking near the Danao Adventure Park is the “Sea of Clouds.”

For an entrance fee of P15, visitors can go up to Laguna Mountain in Barangay Concepcion and savor the jaw-dropping vista –fogs that look like clouds hovering the mountains.

“It was one of the most beautiful natural sceneries that we can enjoy,” said Ken Reignald Rara, a resident of Tagbilaran City.

Sevilla's hanging bridge

One of the better vantage points from which to enjoy the spectacle is at the nearby Dagohoy town. An entrance fee of P10 will give you the best view of the sea of clouds located in Sitio Puntaas, Barangay La Esperanza.

“Seeing fog amid the backdrop of nature makes the scenery seem like a work of art,” said Rex Simbajon Pizaña, 38, a resident of Dagohoy town.

A habal-habal (motorcycle for rent)can take the tourist to the area from the town proper.

There are still several areas to visit in Bohol like the watch tower located in Maribojoc town, the Inang-angan stairway in Loon town which is made of five flights with 212 steps, the lying foxes on Cagban Island in Tubigon; and the St. Nicholas Tolentino Church and the Ermita Ruins (a wall of tombs in a honeycomb-like arrangement) in Dimaiao.

But to go to these places would require another day in Bohol.

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